As time goes by, what are you doing that is within your power to change yourself for the better? We tend to question what needs to change outside of ourselves in order to be happy, content, and at peace. What an egocentric and immature way to approach our “problems”! Outside of your mind there are no problems. We have experiences and it is through the filter of our mind and ego that the baggage of attachment, judgment, blame, emotional pain, and separation are attached to these events and become “problems”. Essentially one who has this perspective is saying,” I am so important that the Universe has to change in order for me to be happy.” Otherwise, I am going to sit here, cross my arms, and make a fuss until I (my ego) get what I want. Chronological time will not dictate whether you approach life in this manner or not. I have seen children, adolescents, adults, and elderly people act this way. That said, we are all doing the best we can with what we have. The reality is that we do not have the power to change the behavior of others or how things in our life play out. We do have the ability to change our inner, habitual response to others and life situations that occur. How often do we tell ourselves, “If only people were less annoying, if only the weather was nicer, if only I had a better or more lucrative job, then I would be happy”. The Universe is constantly changing and shifting. Everything is happening here and now, simultaneously. If we have the expectation that this living divine process of life must occur in our favor in order for us to feel important or be at peace, we will be waiting a long time.
As an alternative to this egocentric approach, try letting go and surrendering your “emotional habitual reaction” or sense of self-importance the next time something happens that doesn’t occur in your favor or does not meet your expectation. Just let it go. Go with the flow…of life. Question your internal reaction. Why does anger come up? Why did those words, or that situation change my mood and pull me away from my sense of peace? Shine your inner light of consciousness into the darkness and onto your internal habits. Ask for guidance and grace from within so you can be free to approach life situations with more ease, understanding, and gentleness. No one can do this work for you. You are the only one responsible for how you feel and how you interact with other people and handle situations in life.
Use the reality of your mortality to check yourself. Bring your awareness back to the fact that your limited life is expiring as time goes by. Use this fact as a tool to help you change through life, not be abused and hardened by it. Be fearless in your approach to this transformation. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. As time goes by, learn to change by becoming softer, gentler, more loving, and filled with grace and peace. This will only happen with your desire to change and your full participation in the process.
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